For a lot of people, friends are family. My mother used to tell me stories about people she knew who would act all friendly when they’re in front of each other but would start talking about them once they turn their backs. It would irk me so much every time she would start with these stories because in my book, you don’t call yourself friends with someone when you do such terrible things to each other.
I love my friends. They’re smart, good-hearted people who I can be comfortable with and whom I have the uttermost respect for. I have to admit though that there have been times when I haven’t been the perfect friend to some of them. Some of those relationships I have managed to salvage, but some of them I have lost and I still feel bad about it even to this day. I have since learned that you can’t expect to be treated a certain way if you yourself treat other people in another way.
If you consider yourself a decent human being, you don’t talk down to your friends. You don’t consider yourself more superior than them. If they manage to be successful in something, you be happy for them. If something makes them happy, even if you think it’s the stupidest thing in the world, you celebrate with them. You don’t just call them whenever you need something and then two days later talk shit about them to other people. That’s not called being a friend.
I know we all have done it. We’ve gossiped about the important people in our lives. We’ve said one or two not so nice thing about them out of anger. But when you do it repeatedly and without remorse, it’s a different story. So next time try looking around you. If you see us disappearing one by one, maybe it’s time you ask yourself why.